Everybody's Doing It!

This message is for every female who feels pressured into having sex outside of marriage. Young people tell each other, "Everyone's doing it." Or "What's wrong with you? If you're still a virgin, you're weird. No one will ever want you." Another lie the devil tells is, "If you don't live with someone first, how will you know your marriage will work?" None of these is true. They are all lies.

There are a vast number of young people today who have made a commitment to keep themselves pure until marriage. What a special gift to give someone: your whole being, just for him or her. To be able to keep yourself free from sin (including oral) until marriage: something you have saved just for that special someone with whom you will spend the rest of your life. What a treasure.

Young ladies, when a teenage boy says he loves you, it's his hormones talking, and all he wants is to satisfy his urgings. Most of the time, once he gets what he wants from you, he dumps you and moves on to the next lovely lady. I know he sounds sincere. But if he really loves you, he will want to wait until marriage too. He will want that night to be special. It's not about a big, fancy wedding. It's not about the wedding gown. It's about the magic of being together for the first time. Make him treat you like the special person you are: make him wait until marriage. If he isn't willing to wait then he just wants to satisfy his urgings and will eventually move on anyway.

If you have already given in, you can tell God you're sorry and make a commitment to God that you will not have sex again until you are married. It won't be easy. Commitments to people are not easy. Commitment to a God we can't see is even harder. But Philippians 4:13 says, "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." If you make the commitment and break it, start over. As long as you are truly sorry, God is patient and merciful, and forgiving. It's a matter of the heart. God knows your heart. He knows everything about you and loves you. If you have had a hard life and have prostituted yourself, God loves you and is willing to forgive if you but ask Him.