You are so in love and you want to be together all the time. Surely this is the right person. Surely you can marry this person and live happily ever after. I think most of us feel this way when we first get married. So why is there so much divorce?
There are so many things that never get discussed before the wedding. Where do WE want to live? What kind of lifestyle do we want? Should the wife work when children start arriving? Can we draw up a budget we can live on and the have the lifestyle we want? If not, what are we willing to compromise on? What can we change? How can we improve on the plan? How will we handle credit card expenses? How involved do we plan to be in the educational process of our children?
Here are the two big issues: Can we agree on religion and politics? These two issues can blow a family apart, and often do. If you are a believer in Jesus Christ before you get married, marrying someone who is an atheist, agnostic, or someone of a different faith or denomination won't work unless you compromise your beliefs. It is IMPERATIVE that you know what you believe and why. If you don't know why you believe what you do, you will compromise and hurt your testimony, your children will suffer the consequences of that compromise, and your spouse may never get saved because it wasn't real enough or important enough to you to stand firm.
To avoid this pitfall, be sure you only date people of like faith. Dating someone of a different belief system opens the door for heartache and compromise. II Corinthians 6:14, 15 says, "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord (agreement) hath Christ with Belial (Satan): or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel (someone who does not know Christ as Lord and Savior)? Don't be fooled by someone who says they believe in God. Big deal. The Bible says Satan believes in God, too. He believes and trembles, but Satan is definitely not going to heaven. He will try to get you to compromise.
Be wise. Don't tempt heartache.