Wednesday, January 23, 2013

No Divorce

You were so in love when you got married. All you could see were blue skies and rainbows. The world was colored in sunshine and love. This person, this wonderful, kind, intelligent being had to be the perfect match for you. Marriage to this person would be absolutely blissful. You married Prince Charming and, within just a few short months, he had turned into a frog or a snake. What happened to that warm, fluttery feeling you used to have every time you looked at him? What happened to the rainbows you thought you had been promised?

The answer: Reality set in. Life is not a fairytale, no matter how much it seems like it at first.  Even if you lived together before you got married, that is NOT a guarantee that the marriage will last. I grew up in the 60's when "free love" was becoming the popular slogan. The prevailing philosophy became "if it feels good, do it." Hippies and Jesus Freaks were everywhere, two extreme counter cultures. Are we better off today because of their influence? I don't think so. We now have a majority of unwed mothers, single moms, pedophiles, and religious emotionalism.

What I'm trying to say is marriage is on the decline, single-parent families are prevalent, kids are angry because they don't have two parents in a healthy relationship, and more often than not these days, when people turn to church they go for entertainment and an emotional high instead of truth.

Here is truth: God intended marriage to be for a lifetime, until they are parted by death. Life comes with problems. Anytime you live with another person, there will be areas where you don't see things the same way. These are opportunities for discussion and growing closer together.  Don't let a disagreement turn into an argument. Don't let those differences tear your family apart. If you're growing apart, find things you both enjoy doing. Be willing to compromise or try something new. Ask God to heal those broken places in your marriage. He can and will if you let Him. Ask God to show you how you can change. Ask Him to make you the wife your husband needs you to be. Even if you think you married the wrong man, God can turn it around and make it right. You may be angry and not want to work this relationship out, but if your husband is not cheating on you or beating you, then be willing to put forth the effort to make it work. You and your children deserve happiness, but it comes from work and determination, not wishful thinking. Matthew 19:6 and Mark 10:9 both say, "What therefore God has joined together, let not man tear apart." God healed my marriage. He can heal yours, too. God bless.

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