Pro_15:1 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
I've heard people say that sometimes they just need a good argument. They justify it by saying it gives them a good reason to make up (among married couples). Well, my goodness, skip the argument and just do the act of making up!
Words. They are powerful. God used them to speak everything into existence, except the crown of His creation, mankind. Think about it. He spoke all of the animals into existence. He spoke the earth, seas, plant and vegetation into existence. He spoke the sun, moon, and stars into existence. But He used His strong, mighty, loving hands to create people. We are special to God.
God moved in the hearts of men to write His words to us: His love letter, the King James Bible (for English speaking people). Why? Because He loves us. He wants to have fellowship with us. For this reason, He also wants us to have fellowship with each other. But, just as our fellowship with Him is broken if we murmur and complain, or blame and criticize, so our relationship with other people is broken if we speak hurtful words in anger, or allow hate and bitterness to wound another.
Hosea 10:12-14b says, "Sow to yourselves in righteousness, reap in mercy; break up your fallow ground (in your hearts, my note): for it is time to seek the Lord, till he come and rain righteousness upon you. Ye have plowed wickedness, ye have reaped iniquity; ye have eaten the fruit of lies: because thou didst trust in thy way, in the multitude of thy mighty men. Therefore shall a tumult arise among thy people, and all thy fortresses shall be spoiled . . ."
How do you want people to treat you? Do you want them to treat you the same way you treat them? How would you feel if your words to others were said back to you with the same tone of voice, attitude? You've heard it said, "You reap what you sow." This is especially true of words.
Job_4:8 Even as I have seen, they that plow iniquity, and sow wickedness, reap the same.
Psa_126:5 They that sow in tears shall reap in joy. My note: when we weep over someone else's trials, illness, pain, or suffering, instead of retaliating in anger, the end result is joy. It may takes days, weeks, months or even years to see that result, but I can tell you from personal experience, the wait and the daily weeping and praying over the situation is worth the wait.
Ecc_11:4 He that observeth the wind shall not sow; and he that regardeth the clouds shall not reap. My note: Pay attention to the expression on the other person's face before you speak. If there are storm clouds in their eyes, it is NOT the right time to speak. Better to let them have their say, humbly reply that you understand (even if you don't), and walk away. The issue can then be discussed later when the "storm" has passed.
Hos_8:7 For they have sown the wind, and they shall reap the whirlwind. Have any questions? E-mail me with "anger" or "blog" as the subject. I don't have all the answers but God does, and I have His Word to guide me. God bless.